Child-Rearing: It Takes a Village

Now that we are up to our elbows in diapers (cloth ones!), bottles, and everything in-between, the cliche “it takes a village,” takes on a whole new, much more tangible meaning. As we began to plan and pack up for the big move to Bloomington, I couldn’t help but feel so so so thankful for the people who have brought over meals, coffee, flowers and cards, and some who came and sat with me and the babies. The few nights leading up to the packers coming in to load up all our possessions – our entire lives – into cardboard boxes, we were fortunate to have a few ladies come and literally hold the babies for 4-5 hours so I could run around like a chicken with my head cut off and try to get a few necessities together, and throw out some things here and there. One night, the ladies played with the babies, fed them, and stayed until midnight to put them down for the night without a single peep or protest. The babies slept peacefully through the night and woke up at 6 am, I think for the first time.

I think I understand a little how some of those more well-to-do families that have nannies and/or a staff to take of the babies. If you’re able to do it, why not? My pre-baby attitude was quick to judge: Shouldn’t the mom want to do everything and have the energy necessary for it Um. Hello. I was completely clueless. Having other people involved in the child’s life doesn’t mean the mom is lazy (though it may in some cases, who knows…) rather, it means there are that many more hands and hearts to love on the little one. I loved seeing D and A bond with close friends, and watch these friends fall under their spell. It meant so much to see that they were literally surrounded with love..

It’s not just them though…it’s us, too. It takes a village for the babies…but for us, too…for us to be encouraged, supported, and spurred on in this season…And what an amazing village to be a part of right now…

“Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit, but all the more as the Day approaches…” -Hebrews 10:24-25

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