Andy and I wrote a book. About being a clergy couple. About family. About marriage. About ministry. It’s called: Yoked: Stories of a Clergy Couple in Marriage, Family, and Ministry.
We are convinced people are thinking to themselves and aloud, “How the hell do they write a book on that?!?” Especially when we are totally clueless. And newbies. And tired. And know of much older, wiser clergy couples than ourselves. Who could come up with much better advice. On pretty much anything everything.
Honestly we didn’t write this book thinking it would provide advice or any kind of wisdom, really. A lot of it came out of wanting to process all the changes happening to our family at the time – new job, new babies, new town, and new season. But, ultimately we always feel like it’s just so much better for everyone to know that other people are going through the same things – the same sleeplessness, the same fights, the same questions, the same where-is-the-light-at-end-of-the-tunnel angst.
At the same time, our story isn’t universal. Like there are numerous permutations when it comes to “traditional” family – meaning there isn’t really a blueprint for family these days – clergy couplehood happens in a variety ways. We are just offering the stories from our lives. And hopefully at the very least people will read and see a way not to do things, if you get my drift.
We don’t mean to be so self-deprecating. Honestly, there’s so much to be thankful for in our lives.
This month I’m hosting a series on clergy couple stories. Obviously there are more than us, and more all the time. And there are many couples who are a lot smarter and way more energetic about it all – so we should definitely hear from them.
Carol Howard Merritt: On Being Yoked
Megan Clapp: Practicing Family Devotions
Sara Hill: Callings Woven Together
Heidi Bolt: Two Churches, Two Kids
Meredith Holladay: All We Know
Mindi Welton-Mitchell: Parenting and Planting
Adam Walker Cleveland: Getting Into It
Katie Todd: Waiting in the Wings
April Fiet: Co-Pastors
Kiran Wimberely: Pulpits and Pews
Jim and Jes Kast-Keat: Working (Not) 9-5
Laura Stephens-Reed: Vocational Niche